具体描述
'Hugely warm, wise, hopeful and encouraging' Alain de Botton
Every parent wants their child to be happy and every parent wants to avoid screwing them up. But how do you achieve that?
In this absorbing, clever and funny book, renowned psychotherapist Philippa Perry tells us what really matters and what behaviour it is important to avoid - the vital dos and don'ts of parenting.
Instead of mapping out the 'perfect' plan, Perry offers a big-picture look at the elements that lead to good parent-child relationships. This refreshing, judgement-free book will help you to:
· Understand how your own upbringing may affect your parenting
· Accept that you will make mistakes and learn what you can do about them
· Break negative cycles and patterns
· Handle your own and your child's feelings
· Understand what different behaviours communicate
Full of sage and sane advice, this is the book that every parent will want to read and every child will wish their parents had.
用户评价
##前几章仔细看了，学到很多，作者帮我name the feelings。后面太实操的跳过了，因为不准备当父母（笑）
评分##可能在经历过咨询后，这本书里的内容才懂得更多。
评分##我们要培养孩子的四种技能：抗挫折能力；灵活应变的能力；解决问题的能力；从他人的角度看待及感受事物的能力。 每个人都是这样，我们必须先释放暗藏在心底的悲伤，才能够释放内心的爱。
评分##大部分在炒冷饭，炒得还没有别人炒得香。少部分非冷饭（也有可能只是我没有看过而已）也有点不切实际。作者的表达让人不舒服。
评分##学习如何与家人交流
评分##好书，虽然有些地方读得很怪，比如说睡眠训练的地方，但是大体上是一本好书，庆幸娃还小的时候读了，印象最深的几个地方：（1）说传统做法都是教孩子要开心，但是负面情绪不可避免，要认同孩子的负面情绪，要去帮他们表达情绪，孩子毕竟小没有相应的语言能力；（2）也要和小孩用合作的态度，有问题一起找解决方法；（3）在设定界限时用I- statement，设定界限是因为自己的感受，这一点其实和在其它读到的有点异曲同工，在和人有冲突时，要多说I feel upset when you shout at me，而非直接去judge去定义对方，you are angry, you are an idiot之类。
评分##Baby is body and all feelings. Synchronize your breath with your baby. And, always be the container for their emotions.
评分##前几章写的心理很棒，后面就是育儿了，我对这个完全不感兴趣。
评分##Baby is body and all feelings. Synchronize your breath with your baby. And, always be the container for their emotions.
