具體描述
Our earliest experiences shape our lives far down the road, and What Happened to You? provides powerful scientific and emotional insights into the behavioral patterns so many of us struggle to understand.
“Through this lens we can build a renewed sense of personal self-worth and ultimately recalibrate our responses to circumstances, situations, and relationships. It is, in other words, the key to reshaping our very lives.”―Oprah Winfrey
This book is going to change the way you see your life.
Have you ever wondered "Why did I do that?" or "Why can't I just control my behavior?" Others may judge our reactions and think, "What's wrong with that person?" When questioning our emotions, it's easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. It's time we started asking a different question.
Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?”
Here, Winfrey shares stories from her own past, understanding through experience the vulnerability that comes from facing trauma and adversity at a young age. In conversation throughout the book, she and Dr. Perry focus on understanding people, behavior, and ourselves. It’s a subtle but profound shift in our approach to trauma, and it’s one that allows us to understand our pasts in order to clear a path to our future―opening the door to resilience and healing in a proven, powerful way.
用戶評價
##一個個心碎的故事，早期創傷分析.
評分##I believe so strongly in the “What happened to you” approach; it avoids the judgment of “What’s wrong with you?”
評分##謝謝你們倆，一是分享給我你的故事，Winfrey；二是告訴大傢，彆再用what's wrong with you的眼光去看人，而是想想祂經曆瞭什麼（艱巨）；三是告訴傷心的人，What happened TO you is also what happened FOR you.
評分##關於創傷應對機製的圖解、說明和後續（如何）通過人際聯係（陪伴、交往、谘詢 etc）重建反應模式比較有意義，案例也好。將睏境乃至行為特點、性格缺陷歸咎於創傷（thesis）本身並不新鮮。
評分##Super readable because of its conversational style. Maybe not entirely earth-shattering, but great stuff for sure.
評分##I believe so strongly in the “What happened to you” approach; it avoids the judgment of “What’s wrong with you?”
評分簡體版即將上市，大傢對書名有什麼建議嗎？
評分##絕不原諒施虐者
評分##前本部關於developmental trauma的neurobiology 太實用瞭，實例也很有力。後半部關於response/intervention貌似有些redundant且草草瞭事泛泛而談的感覺
